Family Pictures

Parental Expectations and Iconography

excerpted from Spiritual Turning Points: 

A Metaphysical Perspective of the Seven Life Transitions"

"Before birth, the souls of the soon-to-be parents make an astral

plane agreement concerning what will become the familial icon for

the child. According to Merriam-Webster, the term icon is defined

as an image or symbol of the thing it represents. When such an

agreement as this is made, there will be expectations placed on the

child that may or may not have anything to do with their true nature

and always have to do with parental projections.

Both parents can agree upon the icon or they may decide to

each give the child one. A subsequent icon may also be given if an

event occurs that changes the basic constitution of the family such

as when one parent dies, the surviving parent remarries and a new

icon is granted the child.

Some icons are more palatable and include “the one who is

compliant” or “the good son.” Others are more negative such as “the

one who is deviant” or “the lost child.” Whether the chosen icons are

pleasing is not of great importance, for no matter what the chosen

icon is, it is still a projected expectation and one that the child will

adhere to in order to gain acceptance in the family. It is in fact not

until during the fourth transition that the icon is disassembled and

broken as part of the birth of the true personality. Until then, the icon

is the cornerstone of the false or learned personality."

c. 2011 Victoria Marina-Tompkins